• What kinds of things do you like to do together?
• The things we do the most together would be sports like basketball or football, ps4 and eat.

• Why are you close to your friends?
• Because he’s a loyal friend since day one. We meet through basketball. We play together every Friday and started to go eat after, that’s how we became friends.

• Have you ever told your friend how much he meant to you? If no, why not?
• No, never. I just know that he knows he means a lot to me. The closest things to express my feeling would be like “I feel you bro” or “I fuck with you”

•  Did ever have a deep conversation about your feeling with your friend? How did you feel after that?
• Yes, 2 or 3 times. “relief” is the only world that I have to tell you have I felt.

• Why don’t you have those kinds of conversations more often?
• I don’t know, it felt awkward like it’s more difficult to have those kinds of conversations with a guy that a girl. Also, I feel like if I talk about what bothers me too often he would that I’m too sensitive.

• Why would girls be easier to talk to?
• Like girls are more empathetic than my guy friend. I feel like she would understand me more than the guy.

 In “ No men is an island: Men is relationships” by Christoper Kilmartin, he stated that “the most important attributes of a close or best male were knowing that he would be there for you, stand up for you,”. For the interview, my friend said that loyalty is the reason why he and his best friend are close. A male-male relationship has a lot of competitive behaviour. The reason why he gives that answer is that he feels like if he tells his best friend his weakness, he uses wouldn’t use it against him.

Also, at some point in the text, “ No man is an island: Men is relationships”, Kilmartin mentions how men get uncomfortable when it comes to talking about their feeling to other men. The three last answers that my friend has proved the point perfectly. he tries to minimal deep conversations, he would have with this best friend even though he felt relief after talking to him just because he felt awkward to share his feeling with his friend.    

In the text “Masculinity” by Micheal kimmel, he stated “Institution accomplish the creation of gender difference and the reproduction of gender order through several gendered processes.” He wanted to express that institution like school, workplace, family have a large impact on how men and females should act. The meaning of masculinity will always change dependent on what king of people you surround yourself with. An example in the episode of “Man enough”, they talked at some point on how they were influents to act different away just to fit in or didn’t want to get bully. Have to be strong or good in sport to be part of the “men club”.

Kimmel wrote also “understanding how we do masculinities…open up the unimaginable possibilities of social change” Kimmel prefers using the term “masculinities” instead of “masculinity”, because he thinks that different society have different meaning how to be a man.  Not everyone sees being similarly. We don’t have just one meaning for this term but many. During the episode of “ Man enough” the men said depend on how you were disciple and raise is how you will think how a men should be.

In my opinion, an inspiring person is someone who lives life to the fullest and isn’t afraid to make mistakes. Also, someone inspiring will motivate you to do more and make you want to better yourself. That’s why the person I find most inspiring is my best friend. He beat his depression and anxiety and is now capable of living his life to the fullest. To me that’s a big accomplishment because he went from a very dark place to someone who is now capable of inspiring others. He constantly gives me advice on how to manage my stress and motivates me to surpass myself. He is a very perseverant, kind and empathetic person. And, yes, I know there are plenty of other men who have done extraordinary things for this world, but, sometimes winning the battle against yourself and slaying your own demons is just as great of an accomplishment as changing the world.

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