School violence is one of the least discussed  topics that needs to be talked about more. Not just bullying in schools. When a fight happens, people pull out their phone and record it. Doesn’t matter if it is an uneven or fair fight, people just light things up. To figure why these fights happen is by the cause in the beginning. For most, the boys fight by being bullied. All types of bullying which is physical, cyber, verbal, and social. People criticized the small details of people to make them feel better or feel more powerful. This will change lots of people. People who have been bullied have changed the way they are because The “Cooler” group don’t like it or be more manly.Kimmel have written about that whitin Masculinity as Homophobia. It is weird that the strong survive. Then one day, they’re forced to fight, surrounded by people and cameras, and it’s unfair. Then, think why nobody helps me and why the school is not showing this problem. At the end of it all, you can’t tell or ask for help just be a man. The CBC Marketplace tells that 41 percent of teenage boys have been assaulted in high school by a survey. These boys also feel fear of going to school because of the thought of danger. 

26 percent of girls have experienced unwanted sexual contact in their students years and a quarter of them have their first experience in Grade 7.Also by the same survey. Which is a huge problem of safety and security. In episode 4 of Man Enough, it shows that people are terrified to experience this form of act. When they ask for help, they’re ignored and put down for even saying their experience. People don’t believe these horrible stories that occurred in people’s lives. Not only do we need to start believing and helping one another, we need to find ways to stop these acts. We need to make sure that both male and female are affected by this. What is worse than ignoring is bringing back the attacker of the victim to the same atmosphere or area space. No punishment towards their action. It is important not to repeat or be encouraged by these actions. When these happen it causes tension between races too.

Being in a different color skin somehow gives people tension towards them. Make them dangerous just by skin color but if we act like them. Formal, classics, and dressing suitable people lower their standards. Brent Staples wrote about Black men and Public spaces that “the White” give tension towards black men. Reading it gives you psychopath vibes of it, feeling what people think of black men. What a black got to do is change their taste of music, chotes, style, and especially their tone. To view as an “approachable” person. There are related topics like “The skin I’m in” Where a black man has been taken down in front of his family because the cop thought he looked similar to a criminal.  While he doesn’t look at all. Digging deeper  into race, there’s a chapter(13) that Kwan Laford talks about race in terms of masculinity. That talks about the core of it. The whiteness what people want and Canada if you are into that. 

Hockey has also had their fair share of violence which follows the common Hockey rule “The Code” This is a tradition in a hockey game where the player has to fight if they don’t it can lead to lethal injuries. You can help teammates but if it’s a rematch then you can’t stop the fight. Taking down your opponent is the only way to get out, win, or lose for the fight to be handled by the referees. There’s Penalties place for fights but never applied  them in Hockey.There’s no any sorts of gains when there is a fight but so called honor. Now, it is a part of the game.The CBC: The Fifth Estate “The Code” which was hosted by Bob Mckeown that talks about Hockey and it’s violence. It shows that there are players who don’t even play Hockey but know how to fight. How children are picking up these violence, the death of Donald Sanderson, and no one expected to fight in hockey. There is no point in fights, or any course of violence when it comes to Hockey, school or anywhere else. If you want violence then go watch fighting sports. Doing sports has been more aggressive, and these fights shows who goes on top by fighting, not by being the better player. Just like how people try to achieve in fights in schools. Especially for white men who feel powerless to prove something or to gain. Which Kimmel explained on Masculinity as Homophobia. 

Why do men fight in Hockey and what honor they speak off? Hockey is a man’s game, you don’t see many women play this or play with aggressiveness. Men are celebrated by their achievements especially through sports. People who won fights in Hockey actually gain fame for winning the fights or in multiple. Their status and achievements. Being inexpressive and independent, men are taught to be strong, sturdy, and invincible but, people who fight repeatedly don’t last long in the season or their careers because they think they can handle this lifestyle of hockey. Then, when they realized that it’s only getting worse. Aggressiveness and adventurousness is what it means for fights like these. To be able to take physical risks when it comes to fights. Almost every fight in hockey, there’ll be a hand injury and least from that is the head injury. A concussion is an injury to the head that makes the brain able to not function. Which is common to blow to the head and guess what? That’s the only area where the players hit in these fights. These are the risks that the players want to take. Kilmartin explains the full 4 explanations of Anti-femalnity, Status and Achievement, Inexpressiveness and independence, and Adventurous and aggressiveness about masculinity. 

Reference

Jennifer McGuire CBC News ”Why CBC started looking into violence in school”  on October 2019 (1.5331402) or CBC Marketplace S47 E4 “ School Violence: How to fight for safer schools” 

Danielle Kwan Leford “Racialized Masculinities Canada” Chapter 13 

The Code host by Bob Mcleown – March 2010 The Fifth Estate https://www.cbc.ca/fifth/episodes/2009-2010/the-code

Micheal. S. Kimmel (Masculinity as homophobia ch.10) (Masculinity ch.1) 

Kilmartin (Defining Men’s Studies) Chapter 1

Being close to someone or mostly called as a friend started with a shared experience. Sometimes a fight between men could start a relationship because you both shared the same experience. Something you can related with someone is emotion, activities\ hobbies, opinions or even goals and that only start friendship.Paraphasing in “Men in Relationships” You can make a friend on video games, too online. Just by playing, having the same interset of games or even a opinion of the aspect of the game. Then, it’s easy to talk to them about life, you help eachother like we’re brothers. But, if you are in a group then, it’s not a problem it just changes the mood of everyone. It’s unsettlte that there’s a friend to be emotionly conncet when the others are not. Which in “Men in Relationships” explains. If your friend feels bad then you feel bad. You’ll don’t want to change the mood of people when you guys are out having for fun. That’s sometimes why we hide it. Also, insult are not taken seriously. Why? Because you know that your best friend is just playing and they’ll always be by your side no matter what but this can be misleading and hurt.

Playing video games, is the number one thing for me. If you are in war then you in war with your best friend; we don’t fight eachother. We strategize, report, call outs, and most importantly trust eachother in the plan because if someone not doing their job we all going down. We also share memes which shares our interset too. And understanding that both of us is anti-social.This is a status relationship within “Men in Relationships”. Just talking about our hobbies, but if we have problems within our lives then I have no shame to share it with the others and sometime a best friend is easier to talk to then a family members. That is what we mentally know. We don’t need to say that we are close or explain it is was it is.

I have said of the value of my best friend and I’ll do the same thing to help them when they’re down, but most of the time they know already that your voices, appearance, and your interset is enough to know that they got your back.And I got them. We say “Bro I love you” then “No homo” to show our gratitude. No homo just limites the word love or a respectable love. Their reacting is “I know” which is common then “Love you too, No homo” with a response. If you say it too many times then they might be concerned about you and it okay to be gay.

For generations men have been the majority worker, but women also have the same problem. Everyone been having difficulty and advantages on different things, but society see advantages by gender. Like a secretary being a feminine job. There are men out their who would enjoy being a secretary but the bias barrier of being judge or the reaction of different people.

Kimmel explains genders as institutions as like a practice, a law between genders. There’s a rule that is followed by everyone who wants to be comfortable. Comfortable in a way that people accepts your job as your gender and not comfortable to you. Women doing sports or being a business woman. These are just examples that surprise people who have lived through those rules.

After watching “Man Enough” Episode 4, that I’m still healing of it. These mental laws that no one said or done. Institutions that we follow are to live our best lifes and for us to be the top of society and in the economy. Rules that makes men to make the choices, hide their emotions and not able to understand women. These rule makes us as object and not just women. “Women have to watch over men and protect against men.” Said in the documentary. Also hiding the fact of listening and understanding one another.

Equality is around the corner, but does that mean everything is going to be ok? Well, if we still ascept men to be the “head” of the society then that’s not equality. It has to be a mental and physical change so we can all do our part. Genders only have a 10% difference between each other.

What surprised me is the exposure of the internet or how young children learn their place of society between genders. Playing like girl mean that you have no worth of this society. People misunderstood the meaning of being worthy because they want people to be what everyone likes. Meaning tough and always on top like in action movies. Not their weird concerns or is it weird after all. That what we all want in society is people are honest and open minded. It makes that men don’t have right, more like they have to follow a tradition.

The access of the internet or technology that children have. In 2020, kids have tablets, phones, and computers connected to the internet. With VPNs or parents restrictions setting it could be helpful to block/ restrict the access of the internet for your child. But the parents don’t know how to work with these devices, so in the future, meaning us will use these feature.

Learn the technology before your child do

Me

Sadly, he pass away last year, but he was like a priest. Everytime he would see me when I was young he would pray for me and my brother. I don’t see him as much, even before when he pass away. But he kept praying for my success and to be honest I didn’t took school seriously. Then I thought of why would someone be so tempting for someone else. Then these questions comes up in your head.

Why is a man put so much time to a person who doesn’t really see them as offend then his own whole family.

Thoughts

First of all, You have to define man what does it mean? How do you become it? Well, I think we all know where this is going. A man who cares and put time and effort like father.

Sadly I don’t have any pictures of the fallen gentleman but I hope he’s in a better place.

I also can’t remember his first name but his last name was Gordon

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