What makes a man? A man is seen to have to be strong but emotionless during hard times, to keep to themselves and assert power over the opposite sex. A man can also be seen to cry, show their emotions and even confide how they are feeling to others. The definition of masculinity varies from one place to another. The characteristics and personality of a man can be accepted in one area and then be rejected in another part of the world. A man should not have to feel as though they need to be man enough. Men should just be able to live a comfortable life without being compared to and measured with another man.
Institutions play a great role in identifying what makes a man. Institutions such as, educational facilities, family, religion, and work highlight what a man should be like. As stated on page 3 of “Masculinity” by Michael Kimmel: “Institutions accomplish the creation of gender differences and the reproduction of gender order through several generated processes.” I believe that Kimmel is trying to say that men and women who take part or visit these institutions must act a certain way in order to not be criticized or judged and so doing so can advance in the hierarchy that is presented. Since men and women are already genetically born different it leads to the conclusion that the sexes themselves must be different when dealing with different situations. This allows for the production of gender differences among men and women. For example, a beer company may hire only men because they assume that men are stronger and faster than women when in reality women can also work for them. A man and a woman should be seen as equal and should be judged on the work they accomplish rather then their identity. The idea that women have less power making men think they have to dominate them all the time was discussed in the fourth episode of “Man Enough.” In saying this you can notice how men are seen to be stronger and more powerful where women are seen to be more fragile and helpless. These characteristics are miscomputations seeing as women can also be powerful and men can also be fragile. This ties into Kimmel’s “Masculinity” because men and women are too often criticized for being a man or a woman and not enough for what they actually bring to the table.
The way a man or a woman acts and is should not be criticized for who they are because they are not living up to their society’s standards. Women do not need to always act “feminine” and men do not always need to act “masculine.” Michael Kimmel uses the word “masculinities” instead of using the term “masculinity” in the conclusion of his article on page four. I believe he uses the word masculinities because Kimmel does not see one definition of masculinity, he sees multiple. Masculinities refer to a variation of different definitions of what makes a man. There may be certain contradictions from one society to another about what men should be like but Kimmel wants to accept all men no matter their personality or characteristics. Masculinities will change over time and in todays society different types of masculinities have been accepted. What can be defined as a man today, was not accepted back then. The word masculinities is very broad whereas the word masculinity only defines what is acceptable of a man in their society. Kimmel is trying to be accepting of all men no matter the society. The symbol of a box was brought up in the fourth episode of “Man Enough.” The men referred to the box as if you stay in the box you are accepted and if you step out you will be rejected by society. The idea that men must hide their true identity in order to be accepted. This relates to “Masculinity” by Michael Kimmel because Michael wants to promote acceptance just as the man in the fourth episode of “Man Enough.” No one wants to be trapped in a box. They want to be free.
To conclude, what is man enough? In my eyes there is nothing that makes someone more of a man than another. Men and women need to stop trying to hide who they are or do things they don’t even like because it is seen to be what is accepted. Everyone should just be accepted for who they are.