In the definition of Kilmartin, the best explanation for men is that they have very strong independence, do not need anyone to rely on, have a strong will and strong ability, and rarely socialize and get help from others. This is a man’s unique personality. He is temperamental, indifferent but not ruthless, always thinking to solve all problems himself, and strongly suppresses his emotions, not extroverted. Is a strong, reliable man.

In contrast, the character I can find with the above personality and temperament is from the main character “Master Sergeant John” in the series of novels and the game “Halo”. John is a powerful soldier and warrior. He has never taken off his helmet in the film and television and game series, revealing his true colors. He is cold-blooded, obedient and powerful. Visually, he is a muscle. Macho, has a strong independence in combat, but at the same time he is not good at expressing his emotions, almost rarely actively communicate with others, he does not rely on anyone, never acts with the team, has always been a single person Solitary, almost no social circle.

Therefore, this name comes from the role of Halo: Master Sergeant John is in line with Brannon ’s Themes of Contemporary Western Masculinity when it comes to inexpression and independence.

According to Kilmartin’s study of masculinity, one of the many characteristics that defines what a man should be is independence and inexpression. In the paragraph Kilmartin describes what a man, who is inexpressive and independant, might look like and there are a few key aspects that stand out, such as self-control, solving problems independently, never show any signs of weakness or emotions, being strong both physically and in character, which means to have a strong personality, and finally to never socialize too much with others.

In my opinion, a perfect example that embodies those characteristics is the well-known fictional character named James Bond, also known as Agent 007, who is a British Secret Service Agent and appears in a series of movies that have also been adapted into comics, animated series, video games, etc.

To begin with, just by the looks, he seems as a very intimidating and charismatic character. In series of movies, he conducts his missions solo and never seems interested at getting help from anyone else, which proves the aspect of solving problems independently. He often makes use of violence as if to prove his superiority in physical strength. In some scenes, there might even be people being tortured by the “bad guys” but we see no signs of empathy or towards whatsoever on his face, or he often engages in briefs relationships with women and he is shown to play with the woman’s feelings by having “one night stands” with her and then move on to his missions the next morning. He never really have other social intercourses other than with those women or when his missions requires him to do so.

For all those different reasons, James Bond conforms Brannon’s Themes of Contemporary Western Masculinity when it comes to inexpression and independence.

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The man who inspires me the most and always has is Justin Bieber. He as an individual has grown so much since when he was younger. He has found peace and comfort in the life he is living and has surrounded himself with the people he loves and with positive vibes, for the most part. He is a big inspiration to me because I would love to follow what he did to get to where he is today. Although he is struggling with mental disorders or an illness he is still staying positive and finding light in not so bright situations. It is very motivating for me and I strive to be as motivated as he is. This one individual has inspired so many people, both boys and girls to become a better version of themselves and to love and accept not only themselves but those around them as well.

Everyone has their own idea of “inspirational.” What may motivate one person may not do the same to the other. But I guess you could say that to be inspirational you must have made a impact or a difference in someone or many people’s lives.

Independence and inexpressiveness are two things that a lot of men are raised and encouraged to act upon in the modern world, and it is seen as something that makes someone a man. Even though it is not necessarily something that makes someone a man, we see it in a lot of public figures nowadays.

When I first chose David Beckham, I thought he was dependent on himself only, but as I was researching for information about him and looking through his speeches he has given, I found out that Beckham was also very dependent on his family and the people surrounding him to get him where he is now. I was surprised when I saw this, but I guess that proves the point that masculinity isn’t necessarily being dependent on one’s self, but it is also about the people surrounding you. I also found out that Beckham is very expressive of his emotions and about all the support he has gotten. He says this in one of his interviews at Goldman Sachs where he says “I think it’s a combination of many things. The biggest thing is the support that I had from my parents…” when he was asked on the reason why he made it as a legendary athlete.

To conclude, I would like to say that I think that Beckham and many other people around the world have proven that masculinity isn’t dependent on being inexpressive and independent. Beckham is a very successful athlete and I think he is a great counter example for this thought that to be a man, you can’t express yourself and depend on others.

Rupaul Andre Charles or just Rupaul as many know him by today was the only boy of 4. At a young age he started trying on his sisters clothes and pretended he was Diana Ross and Jane Fonda. Later on in life he decided to do his first drag ( its when gay men dresses up in women clothing to do shows.) in the 1980’s. When he did his first performance that’s when he fell in love. He later on was named the Queen of New York. He then came out with with a show called Rupaul Drag Race and its still on television today with a new season now being aired. He also made history by being the first drag to be on SNL. He’s the opposite of aggressiveness because he has such a huge personality it’s crazy. Ru is very sassy and he loves to read other people which is rude and funny at the same time. He’s not acting like female, he’s just very free going, expressive, very open with his feelings, not judgmental, do not care about what other thinks of him. Charles’s an example to other men not just gay that’s its okay to have feelings and be sensitive.

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A man is defined by society in various ways, more specifically being stereotyped into gendered roles, some example would be that men should be strong, show no signs of weakness, be independent and have the ability to not show any sort emotions because it is not fitting of a man. This is completely ridiculous to think that that is something society deems to be worthy of being called a man. However I have the perfect counter example for this, that being Jake Paul, a youtuber and social media personality who has amassed over 19 million subscribers with his many YouTube videos. The fact that he has a platform where everything and anything of this person is available to everyone , it becomes very hard to hide their emotions and personality.

First of all , Jake Paul is someone that has succeeded in life thanks to everyone that has helped him get there . From his family members to his friends, his success comes from the support of everyone . The fact is that to be a man, you don’t necessarily have to be independent and do everything on your own in order to become successful or achieve the so called man title. All this to say that asking for the help of others doesn’t shows how incapable you are and that men should not be scared of asking for help when they need it.

Second of all, being a youtuber means showing your emotions and your personality. That being said Jake Paul isn’t someone who shy’s away from showing his emotions even if it means crying on camera, which society has deemed wrong for men and to be something that the typical man should not do. For example, when he won his boxing match, he didn’t hide his emotions or rather he started crying because of how proud he was of himself. In short, it’s to say that crying or showing emotion has nothing to do with being a man, rather it’s a something that society has created to categorize men.

According to Brannon’s definition of masculinity in the theme Status and Achievement: “Men gain status by being successful in all that they do, especially in sports, work, and sexual conquest.” This statement is not necessarily true. There are in this world, several men who have been successful, and who have been able to accomplish extraordinary things, without necessarily respecting the definition proposed by Brannon. Let’s take Gandhi for example. This man totally defies the definition of Masculinity above.

Gandhi is an important spiritual guide of India and of the movement for the independence of this country. Without using any form of violence, this man managed to lead India to independence and Gandhi became successful and accomplished something extraordinary. He was not successful in sports or in his work. He was not recognized for his sexual conquests either. He only became successful after his civil disobedience and this has inspired many civil liberation and defense movements around the world. Because of all of this, I think Gandhi is a good counter example of Brannon’s definition.

The rules of manhood state that a real man must be strong emotionally even in the hardest situations. He must not show any sign of weakness and must not seek for help, ever. He should “keep [his] feelings to himself” and avoid communality, as it is considered a feminine trait. A counter example of that would be Dr. Sean Maguire, played by the late Robin Williams in the movie Good Will Hunting. Sean Maguire is a wise teacher and brilliant psychologist. Throughout the movie, he was able to reach to young Will and to help him overcome his trauma. By the end of the movie, he also becomes a great friend to Will. We learn from the movie that he has been through a lot. He is a war veteran, he grew up with an abusive father and he lost his beloved wife to cancer.

While Will acts tough by never showing any sign of vulnerability, the strength is much more seen in Sean, who deeply grieved for his wife and didn’t shut down his emotions and feelings for her. He has never seen his love for her as a sign of weakness. In fact, he took pride when he told Will “You’ve never looked at a woman and felt completely vulnerable”. He considers this as the true proof that he is a real man, and that Will is just a kid with no real romantic experience. He acknowledges his vulnerability towards the woman he loves and is not afraid to talk about how much her death broke him, and this never makes him seem less of a man. In the movie, he tells Will about how he missed a famous baseball game to get to know his wife better, back when he barely knew her. While Will viewed this decision as stupid, Sean genuinely did not care about that “damn game”. Other men nowadays would consider this as a sign of dependence, but Sean only cared about getting to know a woman that interested him better. Therefore, Sean is clearly a counterexample because he’s not afraid to express his love and vulnerability towards his wife to anyone. He is not ashamed of his sadness and takes pride in it He lives by it and that makes him a stronger person and never makes him any less of a man.

In the famous “It’s not your fault” scene, Sean learns more about Will’s attachment problems due to the trauma caused by his abusive father. He then proceeds to repeat to Will that none of it is his fault, until Will eventually breaks down in tears and hugs Sean, letting out all of the pain he had kept inside his entire life. It is clear that Sean is aware that Will cannot deal with his trauma alone. In fact, he knows that he needs to let it out, just like any normal human being. Unlike what the rules of manhood state, Sean is aware that it’s normal to break down, to cry, to lose control and to seek help. In this very powerful scene, he creates a safe place for Will, free from all the outside world prejudice. He allows him to express his sadness and reminds him that none of this abuse is his fault and that he should not feel ashamed talking about it and seeking out other people’s help to get over it, including his girlfriend’s. This hug clearly was what Will was longing for, because he had always rejected all forms of love.

To conclude, Sean Maguire is an excellent counterexample for this aspect of manhood. As a renowned psychologist, he knows that it’s perfectly normal to seek out for help and to express how you feel. He himself is always very genuine about his love, his pain and his vulnerability, and this has never made him any less of a man. For those of you who haven’t watched this movie, I truly recommend it!

This documentary is very interesting. As a boy, I did experience many of these things. You also realize it, but I have never explained it from the perspective of science and sociology, and when I see various Statistics, this is a shock to me.

All the people in the video have almost the same experience, and their mouth describes the various bad experiences I encountered in my childhood, which made me feel sad and sympathetic, and no one at the time could help them, and could only hide themselves in others The masks made by myself are secretive, and this just shows that violent behavior and perverted extreme behavior do not suddenly occur. It was a terrible thing in his childhood. No one can help him resolve all kinds of extreme emotions in his heart, and slowly spawned and evolved into violent behavior. In childhood, whether in school or at home, negative emotions Both are fatal, which can lead minors whose values ​​are not completely certain to the extreme.

Finally, in Carlos Gomez’s book, what attracted me most was his inability to determine his sexual orientation. This was painful. He was confused and tried different solutions. He is a man in the eyes of others, and men should do what men do. He is shaped as a man. No one can solve this confusion and loss for him. This is frustrating.