The documentary , The mask you live in, showed some very interesting things about how certain men were raised, how they were affected by being treated in a this type of way and how they’ve been singled out by people.One thing that really jumped out to me is how all the guys in the videos had almost similar experiences. For example, there was one of the prison inmates that said because of the way he acted, he got beat up and sexually abused,and because of that he decided to stray towards the path of violence. Another example would be the young Latino guy who was acting out and selling drugs because of how he has been neglected and treated.In short its to say that if these guys could’ve expressed their feelings without being judged , they would not be in this type of situation. In fact less than 50% of these men reach out for help because they’re scared to be seen doing something, the norm would consider weak.
Secondly, the part where the teacher said that in elementary school, there was something called the mean club and like how the boys were not allowed to play with the girls. That part jumped out to me because of how I have lived trough something very similar back in elementary. In my school, there was two groups, the girls and the boys, we were never allowed to play with one another because the guys would think that playing with girls, makes you feminine or gay. Furthermore, if one of us were to accidentally end up playing with them, that person would be kicked out of the group but thankfully this phase didn’t last long and by the end of elementary we all stayed together without really judging too much. More specifically, this was due to the intervention of the school because of how certain guys developed a mentality that acting a bit more feminine or liking what the girls did was not okay. Seeing that we live in a society where even at a young age guys are meant to like more masculine things and are forced into liking things that they don’t necessarily like.
Lastly, in Carlos Gomez’s book, the part that stood out to me would be where he is unsure of his sexuality and is confused as to if he’s gay , more specifically the part where he says that he has had sexual interaction with girls multiple times but he talks in a way that makes it seem as though he’s not so excited. This passage tells me that he is doing this only because it is normal for a guy. To me it seems that he has been molded into a guy, liking a girl, but deep down i think that if society had not put barriers to what he can do, he would’ve turned out a different way. Likewise, in the documentary, it was shown multiple guys being bullied because of the way they acted causing them to lock down their emotions


